Conscious choice: 7 questions before a date

Before a first date (and even before saying “yes”), it helps to ask a few grounding questions. It’s not an interrogation — it’s clarity, so you don’t wake up later surprised by a mismatch.

7 questions that bring clarity

1. Why am I dating right now? (relationship, companionship, family, slow pace)
2. What does “healthy closeness” look like for me? (pace, boundaries, communication)
3. Which values are non‑negotiable? (honesty, loyalty, kids, lifestyle)
4. How do I handle conflict? (shut down, explode, discuss)
5. Which red flags are deal‑breakers? (manipulation, aggression, constant lying)
6. What matters in daily life and rhythm? (sleep, money, habits, travel)
7. What am I ready to contribute? (time, care, support — specifically)

How to use this with 69formula

• Use your answers to improve your feed recommendations.
• If you’re choosing between two people, the “Choice” mode helps compare them on key criteria.

A good date isn’t a “test” — it’s a shared exploration. Clarity brings calm.

Note: 69formula doesn’t promise an “ideal match” and doesn’t replace professional help. We help you structure the choice and reduce randomness.